Dating during separation good
I mentioned the stack of albums I’d dusted off and that I was meeting up with old friends of ours who were coming up next week, and how good it had been to see them.
There was dead silence on the other end of the phone.
Save My Marriage Today by Amy Waserman is very big on not giving your power away, yet communicating fully with an open heart, which is what I vowed to do.
The Magic Of Making stresses that you should be friendly, light hearted and happy with yourself.
Then, a colder tone replaced the earlier one and my husband (or ex, I should say) excused himself. He didn’t like when I pursued him, but now he didn’t seem to like that I wasn’t.
I grabbed the book to see if I was doing something wrong, but according to it, I was sort of on the right track, although my method and my tone were not as lighthearted, matter of fact, or open as the book said I should be.
I remembered the road map and figured I should maybe take a look at exactly what I should be doing.
Sure, we’d had our issues, but once upon a time, we were in perfect sync and truly happy, and nothing like the situation on our hands now. So, I panicked and went on a single handed — through threats, through begging, through desperate, (and now embarrassing) behavior.
Getting away from the situation was a breath of fresh air. It was wonderful to see people who loved me just as I was, without picking apart my flaws. I made arrangements for two of our (and now my) good friends to come and see me at my home in a few weeks. Believe it or not, when I got back, I was not even that desperate to pick the difficult dance back up. Almost as though he were worried about, or at least trying to figure out, my sudden silence.
I just wanted to keep up with my serenity and I didn’t want to take a step back. Frankly, I was ready to give in and wave my white I tried to busy myself and continue moving forward. I was determined to read books that made me happy, dust off my old classic albums that only I enjoyed and just take some alone time to sort things out. I explained that I’d taken some time back home and was just trying to improve and enjoy myself during what could be a difficult time.
Being happy with yourself is a huge key, because you’re not going to attract the relationship you want if you yourself are miserable.
Without really meaning too, I kind of combined these methods with pretty convincing results.