Dating harder smart people
The average stepfamily takes five to seven years to combine; some take longer. (Read more about how to cook a stepfamily here.) 4.Realize that the "honeymoon" comes at the end of the journey for remarried couples, not the beginning.Just as the Israelites traveled a long time before entering the Promise Land, so will it be for your stepfamily. Seriously consider your children’s losses before deciding to remarry. Don’t force children to make choices, and examine the binds they feel.
Moving into a new relationship short-circuits the healing process, so do yourself a favor and grieve the pain, don’t run from it. Date two years before deciding to marry; then date your future spouse's children before the wedding.
Ingredients thrown into a crockpot that have not had sufficient time to cook don’t taste good—and might make you sick.
Couples need to understand that the rewards of stepfamily life (security, family identity, and gratitude for one another) come at the end of the journey. Children experience numerous losses before entering a stepfamily. It sabotages their fantasy that Mom and Dad can reconcile, or that a deceased parent will always hold his or her place in the home. Even in the best of circumstances, children feel torn between their biological parents and likely feel that enjoying your dating partner will please you but betray the other parent.
In addition, your children will need at least this much time to heal and find stability in their visitation schedule. Dating two years gives you time to really get to know one another.
Too many relationships are formed on the rebound when both people lack godly discernment about their fit with a new person.