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We all make mistakes, particularly in our love-lives, as relationships are never easy.
But if you can exercise forgiveness in small ways at the start of a love affair then you’re more likely to find ways to forgive the bigger hurts and transgressions, if and when they happen. There are good rows and bad rows but make no mistake – everybody argues.
Don’t scream, keep your cool: it makes a big difference.
So often, things can be resolved by learning to listen. When you have kids you adore, find time to be just you alone so you remember and remind each other of who you were before they arrived, who you are now, and who you will be when they are gone.
Go to a place where you used to laugh or where there’s a good chance of laughter.
That moment when you exchange a look and end up laughing, often over a shared memory, is the best way to understand each other again.
One of the more ridiculous myths about “true love” is the idea of the soulmate – that there is someone out there who is your perfect match.
A good relationship is about navigating the numerous differences between you – over politics, food, money, how to raise children.
The great wonder of middle age is that we know our time is now limited.
It can be pretty sexy in bed too – as long as you’re laughing together. No matter how bad things are, give your partner a chance to speak.
Given silence in which to speak or rant, they’ll say more than they meant to – even more than they knew they were thinking.
If you have managed to surf the ups and downs of bringing up children, work and making ends meet all within the same relationship, the rewards can be great.
You have a wealth of shared memories to laugh over. Rather than fearing getting older, remember that many couples in a long relationship find these to be their happiest years together. She has been the agony aunt for 'Cosmopolitan’ magazine since 1970 Forget trouble for a little while and laugh together.