Dating while being a single mother
I am here to have an open mind and a cautiously open heart.” “Here I am” — that’s your new mantra. Revealing that you’re a mom is first date conversation material. Don’t go on and on about how much you miss your child and how weird it is to be away from her, making him feel bad for being out with you. Stressing about what you’re not doing will only make what you’re doing less successful. Be an active, present participant in the relationship. If you know your child has complete breakdowns when you leave, plan to leave early so that you aren’t incessantly late with the excuse of “I needed to calm my child.” 5. Answer these and then be upfront with him about them. That’s not to say that you need to present your calendar and expect him to memorize it. Yes, it’s hard to pull yourself together like you used to, but finding time to work out, go shopping, and primping is important! You were a fully-formed and interesting woman you became a mom. If nothing else, it will give you more to talk about on your dates, which will make you more attractive and make men more interest in you …
Present the fact in a power feminine way and with pride. Even though you’re tired, don’t constantly complain about how tired you are, making him feel bad for being out with you. Call, text, and arrive when you say you’ll be there. What type of guy you’re looking for who will be a fit for both you and your child? Let him in on your schedules, hours, your ex-relationship, classes, work, appointments, nanny and everything else in between. Even if it’s just taking a class once a week, going out to the gym, having a childless standing date with a girlfriend, or starting a mom’s (or just women’s) adventure group in your area — pulling together a group of women to explore interesting activities in your area. Just as some women lose their identity within relationships with men, it’s also common for moms to lose their identity with their children.
Their negativity was surprising and quite upsetting at times. One friend suggested I should just focus on being by myself, while a particularly charming family member questioned why being a mother wasn’t ‘enough for me’.
They even implied that I should wait until my son was 16 – only another 15 years on my own then!
At first, it seemed exciting creating profiles on and Plenty of Fish and immediately getting loads of messages.
Amongst all these stats, you have to remember that you are MORE than your parental status. But you are also an interesting, dynamic, layered, fun, playful, successful and sexy woman! I realise I’m not a teenager any more, but that doesn’t mean I want to fast-track to a relationship that involves arguing over the remote control when Match of The Day is on.Then there is simply my lack of free time – my son goes to stay with his dad every other weekend, so I have precisely 48 hours a fortnight to have fun. In truth, I doubt we’re even seen as a great catch and imagine lots of people think I should just settle for whoever I’m lucky enough to get.Their comments made me feel that my desire for dating and sex meant I wasn’t measuring up as a mum in some way.But I seriously doubt any single dads ever receive the same type of criticism.