" Remember, you are taking time off from dating, which includes worrying about dating. This might be a difficult one for me, seeing as HB living on the mainland but having family here means he occasionally pops over for a visit. Y'know, in case he wants to come back when the time is up. - DO tell guys who try to slip back into your life that you're not interested. I have great friends who will be there for me no matter what.
You’ll need a surrogate when you deactivate your online profile, which is why, when I de-activated my OK Cupid and profiles, I re-hired my entire staff of imaginary personal assistants: Veronica Crawford, Agnew Hamilton, and Chucho Van Den Born. Now, instead of checking my online dating profile every second like Rain Man, I spend the time helping my imaginary posse get into all kinds of creative mischief.
: "I am taking a break from dating because I recognize that I need to focus on other things in my life.
I have thoroughly examined all my reasons and know that moving through this year will be a healthy and wise thing for me to do. Granted, I've changed a lot and toned it down a TON, but even slight or surreptitious flirting is not allowed. Not that it happens often, but if I am invited out for a date, I am to (politely) decline.
I intend to finish out the year knowing what I need and want in a relationship, whether it is my relationship with myself, with God, or with a man. No prolonged eye contact or "double-takes", no gestures designed to show off any part of my anything, no high-pitched giggles (oh, you have permission to slap me if I've ever done that in your presence - it's revolting) or anything else that would signal interest in the opposite sex. I can offer the reason of my dating hiatus, but it's probably best in most cases not to. - DO try new places, with friends or on your own - use this as an opportunity to watch for red flags that you usually miss - DO find a new hobby - try something that you've always wanted to do (Actually, I always try to find time to work on the novel I've been writing for five hundred years...perhaps this is my chance. ) - DO delete numbers of guys that you no longer see. I don`t see them, but I guess in the back of my mind I worry that they might text and I won`t know who they are. - DO surround yourself with good friends - and rid your life of enablers.
I will be better for the break." : This was so good a reminder that I am just quoting the entire paragraph from the above noted link: Do not entertain thoughts like: "I will never meet anybody" or "Dating is so hard for me; I must be unlovable" or "Why am I still single when all my friends get to be happily married? I can't believe I forgot to include this in my list of Don'ts, because it does seem like it's a given as well, but if I'm spelling things out so thoroughly I had better include this very obvious point. If the person asking is someone who meets my List requirements (as far as I can tell), then I think it's fair to explain about the dating hiatus. I`ve got to stop stressing that it might appear rude and just recognize that it`s pointless to have numbers in my phone of people who are not important to me. Fortunately, I am incredibly blessed in this department.